So I am a planner. In and of itself not necessarily a bad thing but I take the plan to an extreme and play out whatever it is I am working towards in my head. And then when things go different than my plan or what my expectation is in my head, I have a hard time dealing with it. As I have been discovering, this is an issue on a couple of levels.
First, nobody else is privy to this plan or the script in my head because, it is only in my head. I am kinda setting myself up for disppointment if I don't set my expectations outloud with others. Otherwise, I am asking everyone around me to be mind readers or psychics. As amazing as the people in my life are, I don't think any of them have those types of magic powers :-) How then do I get a different outcome? I think sharing my ideas or expectations and reasoning with others. Maybe things still don't work out as planned but at least we are all communicating and working from a more common understanding.
Second, I am missing out on the journey and only focusing on the destination. There is so much to enjoy in the act of doing and being. I have rediscovered cooking for the sake of cooking and not just to make a perfect dinner. The measuring, the mixing, the browning....all of it can be very enjoyable and it doesn't really have to be all about the end state and doing it all. Simple example, but it is my new perspective. I am going to try and be more aware of my surroundings and whatever it is that I am doing. It doesn't matter if everything doesn't go as expected as long as I enjoy the journey!
My journey today included going to the worst NBA game. But it was still an awesome evening, because I got to hang out with my husband and we enjoyed each other's company. A very great night!
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